This is an excerpt about dating when you have an invisible disability, by Rissa. You can read the full post on her Instagram blog.
One thing about invisible illness, especially before I was comfortable using mobility aids, is that you can’t see it. So people would be interested in me but then my chronic illnesses can be a deal breaker for some people. Or their reactions are a deal breaker for me!
I’m always open about it first because although people want to seem nice and say it’s no big deal, I can usually tell it is. Ableism is hard to hide.
I’ve had people tell me they hoped I was lying about having fibromyalgia or exaggerating how much it affected my life. But then they would see behind the scenes and run for the hills.
One person even told me they didn’t see how I could be a good mother one day given my condition.
Please don’t ever put up with remarks like this! Not everyone is going to get it and possess the understanding we need. But hold out for those amazing friends and lovers that embrace every aspect of you.